Thanksgiving: Do You Focus On Self Or Others? What It Means

Happy Thanksgiving Canada!

I’m writing about Thanksgiving as I’m having my morning coffee and thinking of all the people and things I am thankful for.

I like to start my day with a cup of coffee, or two, and a good think.

I avoid listening, reading, or getting caught up in all the media hype as it’s nothing but fear and hatred these days.

Oh, and just to let you non-Canadians know, the Canadian Thanksgiving is in October while the American Thanksgiving is in November. 

I believe this is due to the growing season being slightly shorter in Canada than in the United States.

Thanks For Getting – Thanks For Giving?

Now, what started me thinking this morning was the actual name, “Thanksgiving.” Thanks, or thank you, is almost always associated with getting or receiving. We say, or should say, thank you whenever we receive something because we are thankful to receive it.

Receiving something good makes us feel good and, therefore, we are focused on that good feeling. We are focused internally on the good feeling we have created from receiving.

While some people focus internally on the good feeling of receiving, other people will say thanks or thank you for giving. Their focus is on the giver. The fact that someone gave them something makes them feel just as good, but their good feeling is directed externally toward the giver.

The difference between these two personality traits is neither good nor bad. They are merely different. Some people have an internal focus, and some have an external focus of attention.

Eat Your Turkey, Wash Your Plate (zen)

And it doesn’t matter if you focus internally or externally when someone gives you something. What matters is being thankful. The turkey dinner will taste just as good whether you focus internally on receiving it or focusing externally on where it came from.

But, wait a minute, am I actually writing about a turkey dinner? 

Of course not, although I am thankful I’m getting one today. In actual fact, I am writing about, as you may have guessed, being thankful.

It doesn’t matter where you live in the world, or what day it is; you have a reason to be thankful. You have things and people that you would miss if you didn’t have them. You have specific abilities and functions that, if you didn’t have, you would certainly miss.

And don’t get me wrong here, I don’t believe that being thankful means being satisfied. You can be thankful for what you have and still want more. I highly recommend that.

There is nothing wrong with wanting more happiness, more freedom, more friends and family around you, and wanting more money too. Just be thankful now for what you do have, and remember to be thankful when you get more.

Oops, I’m out of coffee; thankfully, there’s another cup left in the coffee pot …

Happy Thanksgiving To All!

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Bob Clarke

Hi I’m Bob Clarke, writer of most of these blog posts. I’m also the Co-Creator, with my wife Ronda, of the Most Comprehensive NLP Training and Coaching Program Online. Our purpose is to bring NLP to you, saving you time, travel and money.